Author Archives: bonnevivantelife
I’m Still Hot, It Just Comes In Flashes Now
Night sweats? I literally attributed to global warming. A non-judgmental friend asked kindly, “In your bedroom though?” Some days are better than others for me. Continue reading
Posted in Empowerment, Health Issues
Tagged Estrogen, health, hormone replacement therapy, hormones, hot flashes, HRT, menopause, night sweats, perimenopause, wellness, womens-health
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Bigmouth Strikes Again
“I miss it. I was so good at it. I miss doing this. I miss feeling alive.” Continue reading
Posted in Empowerment, Uncategorized
Tagged blog, career change, career satsfaction, consulting, do what you love, fulfillment, life, love, mental-health, purpose, writing
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How a Meditation Retreat in Costa Rica Changed My Life
I went to Costa Rica to get grounded again, and I came back unemployed. Continue reading
Posted in Empowerment, Meditation, Mindfulness
Tagged adventure, business, career change, central-america, Costa Rica, courage, empowerment, entrepreneur, fear, life lessons, meditation, mindfulness, travel, writing
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Mistaken Identity
As shared live on stage for Stoop Storytelling Series (click to hear the audio!): Look at me. What do you see? You’ll probably say a middle-aged Chinese woman who has worked very hard for every single one of these gray … Continue reading
My Journey to Listening To Your Mother
I’ve died a thousand deaths to find myself. Or at the very least, the self I am today. And I fall in love with myself each and every time. Is that conceited, arrogant, proud? Maybe. But definitely proud. And content. … Continue reading
Posted in Empowerment, Mindfulness
Tagged courage, essay, essays, life lessons, mindfulness, writing
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Don’t Forget Who You Are
“Don’t forget who you are. They will take one look at you, and they’ll always remind you that you’re different. You think you’re White, but you’re not. They’ll always treat you different.” I wish I had listened to my mother. … Continue reading
Posted in Parenting, Relationships, Uncategorized
Tagged assimilation, Chinese, immigration, Mother, parenting, racism, relationships
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Roots and Wings
Sending a child off to college removes any illusion of control and bitch slaps me in the face that these children will make all sorts of decisions in their lives, big and small, and there’s not a damn thing I can do about it (other than bailing someone out of jail). Continue reading
Posted in Parenting, Uncategorized
Tagged college, college dorm, freshman, grown and flown, parenting, roots and wings, sending child to college
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Foreigner in My Own Country
Weeks before the Atlanta spa shootings, someone asked if I felt safe, if my family felt safe. She was asking as a check-in during a steady escalation of violence and harassment of Asians in America. I told her that when … Continue reading
Posted in Empowerment, Uncategorized
Tagged #stopasianhate, stop asian hate, white supremacy, white terrorism
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The Burden of Choice
I’m 45 years old, and I am both ecstatic and dismayed that I have one more student loan payment left. I received my graduate degree in 1997. It’s been a while. It also took me a while to understand why … Continue reading
Posted in Empowerment, Mindfulness, Parenting
Tagged Chinese, choices, mistakes, parenting, tribe, values
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Thrive Fully Creative 