Author Archives: bonnevivantelife
On Peace and Forgiveness
This holiday season we greet strangers with softness and compassion, “Happy holidays!” we say. “May your holiday season be filled with love, happiness, and peace!” we bestow upon friends and family. Love, we know what loves is. We know how … Continue reading
Make a Joyful Noise
I believe God has a sense of humor. Sometimes I think He thinks He’s funny and I respectfully disagree. This happens when one too many things go wrong at once, or when I’m faced with one too many ironies. But … Continue reading
Happy Lights
“Happy holidays,” we wish friends and strangers. Happy. We want to be happy. We want others to be happy. New shoes make me happy. Vodka makes me happy. The beach makes me happy. My kids’ snuggles makes me happy. But … Continue reading
Posted in Empowerment, Meditation, Mindfulness
Tagged full life, happiness, joy, life well lived, satisfaction
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Today Is Not the Day
I write because I need to. Topics come to me, suddenly, and I need to immediately sit and write. It’s like a purge. No, it’s actually more like the sudden realization you MUST pee but you’re not moving on the … Continue reading
Deserving Enough
I’m a writer because I believe words have meaning. We need to choose and use our words carefully. Words can hurt. Words can heal. And I’m a little grumpy today because I’m tired of all the pithy sayings we throw … Continue reading
Bookmarking Your Life Story
Guest post from The Boy, age 11. “If something sad happens, you should always move on. What you shouldn’t do is forget. For example, in a book you place bookmarks where you left off. Think about it like your life … Continue reading
Lessons from Marriage & Divorce
Several different couples I’m friends with are uncoupling right now. They’re at the very beginning of the separation process. It’s got me thinking. Because when I look in their eyes, when I hear their voices, I recognize the fear and … Continue reading
Posted in Empowerment, Mindfulness, Relationships
Tagged divorce, kindness, lessons, marriage
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Saying Good-Bye
“I don’t know how to say good-bye.” La Chica writes this in an important note to me about her feelings of her good friends moving away. I don’t blame her. No one knows how to say good-bye. It’s hard and … Continue reading
Posted in Empowerment, Mindfulness, Parenting, Relationships
Tagged Endings, grief, loss, relationships
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Making the Band
I love being in my band. We’ve only existed for about a month as an entity, but I’m pretty sure they feel the exact opposite about me. It is really hard for them to play a song that’s recognizable when … Continue reading
Posted in Empowerment, Mindfulness
Tagged brave, courage, inadequacy, perfection, perspective, rock band
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Life Writing
There is the theory that artists are a bit mad–that there is a higher preponderance of creativity in those with mental illnesses such as bipolar disorder or depression. That the madness fuels the art. That may or may not be … Continue reading
Thrive Fully Creative 