Author Archives: bonnevivantelife

Spilling My Milk

Posted on August 2, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

La Chica: Momma, why does it say July 13 on the milk? Me: That’s when it expires. La Chica: ……isn’t it July 31st though? Me: Huh. Maybe? The date’s only a suggestion. See, I am sort of a messy human … Continue reading →

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Raving About Raves

Posted on July 29, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

I’m known for many things, but mostly for being frequently inappropriate. I, at the age of 40, single mama to two, held my own at a rave over the weekend. Yes, I am old enough to be the mother of … Continue reading →

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Drama Queen

Posted on July 28, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

Drama. We hear people talk about drama with disdain. They’re drama-free. They hate drama. Dramadramadrama. But really, what is drama? My friend fell into a rough patch with his girlfriend, and he rolled his eyes about her drama. I asked … Continue reading →

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My Sangha of True Love

Posted on July 21, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

I’ve deleted one of my online dating site profiles. Another one I’ll leave up simply because I paid a discounted price for an entire 6 months from the start because I’m cheap, but I won’t really be participating in this … Continue reading →

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Normal: Only a Setting on the Washing Machine

Posted on July 15, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

My friend has had a very unexpected family crisis. She was living her life, a good life at that, and one day, in one moment, her entire life as she knew it was something else. We are taught certain facts … Continue reading →

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Does Your Bullying Make Me Look Fat?

Posted on July 13, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

I had a very disturbing conversation with my friend’s tween daughter the other day. Daughter mentioned she was fat. My ears perked up, and my heart tugged. I looked at my friend and said “We cannot raise another generation of … Continue reading →

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Shadow of Myself

Posted on July 10, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

Recently, several people have asked what happened in my marriage, why I got divorced. People ask me this like they’re asking me why I chose that particular Keurig model or why I no longer use Milton as my hairstylist. There … Continue reading →

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God, Vivienne & Lightning Bugs

Posted on July 6, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

Oh, the difference a season makes. The last time I went on a silent monastic retreat, it was the winter of this year. A snow storm was heading in as I drove away from the quiet solitude at the end … Continue reading →

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Dating Really Is a Headache

Posted on July 2, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

You may have noticed I have not written much of late. If you haven’t noticed, I won’t be offended. A little sad, but I understand. I haven’t written because I can’t. My head injury has flared up again such that … Continue reading →

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Endless Summer Lessons

Posted on June 21, 2014 by bonnevivantelife

We just returned from a week down the shore. It was as fabulous and relaxing as you might imagine. It’s a week of unplugging and hopping off the grid, of working hard on tan lines, walking up and down the … Continue reading →

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