Author Archives: bonnevivantelife
The Natural Order of Things
I tell myself this is the natural order of things. This is the way it should be. Knowing this doesn’t make it any easier. Your brain understands this. Your heart protests. You’re born into this world with unshakable tenets. Such … Continue reading
Posted in Parenting, Relationships, spirituality
Tagged adult parent death, death, funeral, grief, grieving, natural order of things
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“Music is What Feelings Sound Like”
Reason #79 why I love my band: Their sense of humor–not everyone would agree to referencing blood sausage in their band name. This motley crew who gather weekly with me are my Church. Which is strange because one is Jewish, … Continue reading
Posted in Mindfulness
Tagged drummer, drumming, drums, life lessons, mindfulness, rock band, rock n roll
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Cosmic Perspective
Perspective is everything. “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” I try to remember perspective and gratitudes, and how important both are for my sanity, ability for acceptance, and sense of peace. It’s not … Continue reading
Posted in Mindfulness
Tagged aurora borealis, gratitude, Iceland, Northern Lights, perspective, resilience
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Walking with Bad Decisions
Recently I received a note letting me know My Child had made a Bad Decision. It took my breath away. Intellectually, we know our children are human, and will make Bad Decisions. We know we each made our fair share … Continue reading
Posted in Empowerment, Mindfulness, Parenting
Tagged anger, bad decisions, children, grace, parenting
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Grace in a Tree
Turns out that you can invite grace into your life, into your home, but grace doesn’t automatically make your life or home calmer or better or more joyful. Continue reading
Posted in Dating, Empowerment, Meditation, Mindfulness, Relationships
Tagged authenticity, courage, grace, vulnerability
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How to Heal Our Country
It has been 12 days since the election. I have been sitting with it all, not sure what to say, think, write. Everyone has something to say. It’s hard for me to take it all in, to sit and listen … Continue reading
Posted in Empowerment, Mindfulness
Tagged blue states, Clinton, divided country, election, Hillary, red states, Trump
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And Then There Was a Teen
Dear my sweetest son, I’ll wake tomorrow with a teenager in my home. I’ve seen this day coming for a while now. I’ve seen you grow taller; taller than your friends, taller than your grandmother, then taller than me. … Continue reading
Posted in Mindfulness, Parenting, Relationships
Tagged birthday, parenting, teenagers, teens
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Grace in a Box
I do not go to church often because I don’t seem to find God there. I find Him at the beach, I think we are kindred spirits. I also find him at Holy Cross Abbey during silent monsatic retreats. Some … Continue reading
Posted in Meditation, Mindfulness, religion, spirituality
Tagged grace, Holy Cross Abbey, spirituality
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Apple of My Eye
It’s apple season. And apples really don’t fall far from the tree. I have always said La Chica is an apple that didn’t fall far from the Momma tree. It’s clear she’s stubborn, fierce, and feels things much more intensely … Continue reading
Timing Is Everything
There is something you must know about me. I hate math. And math hates me. I hate numbers. They confuse me. The only numbers I understand are the number of shoes I own, and that gives me great comfort. Otherwise, … Continue reading
Posted in Meditation, Mindfulness
Tagged 7/8 time signature, expectations, life lesson, shoulds, timing is everything
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Thrive Fully Creative 