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Don’t Forget Who You Are
“Don’t forget who you are. They will take one look at you, and they’ll always remind you that you’re different. You think you’re White, but you’re not. They’ll always treat you different.” I wish I had listened to my mother. … Continue reading
Posted in Parenting, Relationships, Uncategorized
Tagged assimilation, Chinese, immigration, Mother, parenting, racism, relationships
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Roots and Wings
Sending a child off to college removes any illusion of control and bitch slaps me in the face that these children will make all sorts of decisions in their lives, big and small, and there’s not a damn thing I can do about it (other than bailing someone out of jail). Continue reading
Posted in Parenting, Uncategorized
Tagged college, college dorm, freshman, grown and flown, parenting, roots and wings, sending child to college
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The Burden of Choice
I’m 45 years old, and I am both ecstatic and dismayed that I have one more student loan payment left. I received my graduate degree in 1997. It’s been a while. It also took me a while to understand why … Continue reading
Posted in Empowerment, Mindfulness, Parenting
Tagged Chinese, choices, mistakes, parenting, tribe, values
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Bearable Lightness of Being
I never quite know who I’m coming home to. There are two human beings in middle school who have the keys to the house and full run of the refrigerator. But I don’t know who I’ll encounter when I … Continue reading
Sitting, Waiting, Wishing
I never had any intention of being a parent, for good reasons. One of which is that it is very hard. I want to also point out that it is very, very hard. A third, yet related reason is that … Continue reading
Walking with Bad Decisions
Recently I received a note letting me know My Child had made a Bad Decision. It took my breath away. Intellectually, we know our children are human, and will make Bad Decisions. We know we each made our fair share … Continue reading
Posted in Empowerment, Mindfulness, Parenting
Tagged anger, bad decisions, children, grace, parenting
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And Then There Was a Teen
Dear my sweetest son, I’ll wake tomorrow with a teenager in my home. I’ve seen this day coming for a while now. I’ve seen you grow taller; taller than your friends, taller than your grandmother, then taller than me. … Continue reading
Posted in Mindfulness, Parenting, Relationships
Tagged birthday, parenting, teenagers, teens
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Apple of My Eye
It’s apple season. And apples really don’t fall far from the tree. I have always said La Chica is an apple that didn’t fall far from the Momma tree. It’s clear she’s stubborn, fierce, and feels things much more intensely … Continue reading
The Houses We Live In
I’ve been having minor, yet irritating, disagreements with my dad the past few weeks. I’m having some minor renovations done in the house, as well as changing lots of things within the house. He’s been visiting to help me out. … Continue reading
Posted in Parenting, Relationships
Tagged disappointments, enmeshment, family, parenting, relationships
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